Being
a 25 year old, around 90% of the people I meet, range between 22-35
years of age. Though the sample size is inadequate to extrapolate and make general
statements, I am drawing my observations in this post, gathered over a bunch of
such interactions over the past 6-7 years.
About
80% of the people I meet, read about, follow on social media are either very
strongly opinionated or have no opinions at all. People either care too much or
too little. People either complain constantly or are complacent. People are
either too optimistic or have lost all hope. People call themselves liberals or
conservatives. So, the questions I keep asking myself is, “Why aren’t we in the
middle?”, “Is it alright to have such extremities?” and “Is it possible to be a
little bit of both?”
These
interactions about a myriad of topics ranging from geo-politics to childhood cartoons
and deep learning algorithms to Roman civilization has taught me a little bit
about people’s personalities and how people draw their satisfaction from being
proven right. Now this is something we all know and I’m no pundit on human
behavior or psychology. But it’s something that deeply fascinates me. And
learning what makes each of us tick could help us find the answer to why we
aren’t in the middle. So, I went through the following phases to analyze this.
Phase 1: Self analysis:
I try quite hard to be in the middle. Not have extreme opinions on anything.
When I hear a story, read an article or absorb any piece of information, I try
to take it with a pinch of salt and skepticism. I try to consume the same
information from various sources. But during this process of self analysis, I
inferred something quite significant. I realized how I had made no attempt to
express my thoughts, opinions out in the open. And no other better way than to
pen them down. Now you know why you’re reading about this, don’t you?
Phase 2: Learn about the source:
I
started out an experiment where I started asking people where they consumed
their news and other information from. While it helped me learn a good deal
about their preferences, I also understood why they believed what they believed
in. In this era of fake news and alternative facts, I tried to ask them how
much they believed in what they read. Though most people didn’t entirely rely
on what they read or watched, they seemed to be influenced by it in some way or
the other.
Phase 3: Learn why they think it’s right:
Certain
life experiences drive people to have certain biases towards/against a certain
process, race, gender and so on. What I learned is that - something new that
follows intuition and supports the biases overrules logic most times.
Regardless of how hard one tries to disassociate oneself and their preconceived
notion with the newly learned piece of information, they generally tend to
formulate their opinion based on this information that transitions into a fact
in the head. And once a fact, it becomes quite hard (not impossible) to unlearn
it.
Phase 4: What’s next after the fact is established? :
Humans
have an incessant need to be proven right at all times. We all try our level
best trying to show our friends, relatives, colleagues how our opinions (which
we consider facts) are almost always right. While the streak of modesty in us
tries to remind us of all the possible ways our logic could be failing us, we
still don’t take a step back and think. And every time we desperately try to
prove to someone why what we think is correct, we also try to prove the other
person wrong. We stop listening and we impose. This is where I believe the
nature of extremity crawls in. At the time of information consumption, we are
all in the middle. We are learning something we do not know, it’s all new. Once
it transitions as a fact and we want to convince someone else why we think we’re
right, we push ourselves into believing that it’s the only single truth ever
known to mankind and how every one else who thinks otherwise, is an idiot.
These
4 phases didn’t entirely help me arrive at any specific conclusions about the questions I
had. I’m still in the process of understanding why being in the middle is important
to me. Whatever we learn, we learn from nature. While extreme ecosystems does
support life, what we know from science is moderate ecosystem is what lets life
grow and expand. From the fear of getting too philosophical and preachy, I’d like
to stop my first post with the question I’d posed somewhere in the middle
(Haha, you see that?) of my post – “Why aren’t we in the middle?”
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